Guy geometry in GIRLS’ math!

imageGirls are like wine! The older we get the better we are. But this wine does have certain chemical formulae and definitely some math which the guys need to understand. So let’s start with some basic girl math the guys should know.

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Being a 13 year old girl—fun, exciting. To have few guys come up and ask us out. It all gets even more stirring when you dress up your best to meet a guy, coming back with stories of the first date and even writing about it in a diary.

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Few years later, we turned prettier and started getting more attractive. We turned sweet sixteen, when the counting game was fun and we had to use the term fans instead of just a name of a guy because it really was a club. Some names had to be attached to their surnames because you need to identify the guys with the same first names, right? Not to forget the guys with the same surnames. All madly in love with us.

Turning 18 is like entering the fancy age. More boys, lesser girls around. Attention from everywhere, prank calls, missed calls, letters, chocolates, recorded CD’s with our favourite songs, roses, cards, gifts. New boys, old ones, all in love with us.image

We learnt how to flirt, we blushed, we smiled, we played with our hair, and we were excited when a guy says the 3 words we love to hear.

Some of us had a boyfriend, or many boyfriends, some of us stayed single, or some episodes of being single at least for a while. But the attention never stopped. Everybody around flirted with including friends, good friends, friend’s friends, brother’s friends, friend’s brothers. And the story continued to our twenties.

Early 20′s were better, we learnt to dress up, regular parlour visits, spas occasionally and the individual styles we acquired for ourselves. All of which made us stand out for few eyes. We believed we had plenty of friends (mostly guy friends) and thought they’ll be around forever. Lost few friends because we rejected them for a relationship and they found new girlfriends but we didn’t bother at all because we had a bunch of guys in our list who we thought would be our friends forever.
26 years old already, but we feel like we are 16 inside—still enjoying the attention from every new guy that comes along and from old ones who have waited for years to hear a yes from us. So, yes we never felt too friendless.

27 years old, the guys are slowly getting married one by one. We are happy for them but sad also because they all changed. Though sometimes they act like we were the one they should have been with. So, all the married ladies, your guy does make someone feel that they are more special than you (guys don’t change even after they get married…though we have exceptions everywhere!). All the more reason, you hear lot of girls at this age saying that they don’t believe in marriages until they find the perfect guy, so you know what they mean! image
At 28 years, we do not need that attention from so many guys. We need friends, we start realising that not many people took us as friends. The guys were just trying to see if at some point we just might be with them. We get fed up of guys hitting on us, in parties, in a bar, in a friend’s place, on the road, in the coffee shop, in the restaurants. Why can’t any guy just look at us as a friend? Where is the meaning of the friendship that we believed in all our lives? We are not 16 anymore that we enjoy your attention. We don’t want you checking us out anymore. When you flirt, it sounds ridiculous. We have heard enough of people telling us that they love us on just a few dates; we are done with every guy telling us that we are amazing and asking us for a kiss however polite you get at it. We want just a friend and may be if you act like a friend for a little longer you might even get whatever you want ( I hope your intention was of having a committed relationship) So stop flirting you guys, be a friend!

29 years old and given up in trying to make a guy become a friend. We start looking out for girl companions. We would love the fairy tale ending but we have given up on it. We don’t even mind our parents fixing us up with someone because all the guys we meet still seem to be in their early twenties and haven’t become matured enough to understand the girl mathematics.

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30 year old, we are maturing like wine. We are polished. We have learnt to enjoy our own company. Some of us still haven’t found our match but that seems to be less important because we hardly care about the timing anymore. We will not compromise and it doesn’t matter how long it takes because we can now finally wait till we know, this is the guy. Love doesn’t seem like only a relationship thing anymore. We find love in everything we do, love in just being us. We have lost too much to be scared of anything; we only look forward to life. We don’t need to try to fit into anyone’s life any more or try too hard because someone would have grown up too and some day he’ll find her and she does not mind waiting.

Her daughter’s mother.

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It was already 11.30 at night. Kelly had gone everywhere to find her daughter and she was terrified with the thought that it was actually impossible for Anna to find the house or the hospital by herself.

Anna was now 22 and had developed schizophrenia at the age of 16. Ever since, Kelly had to leave everything that she was doing to take care of her daughter.

She spent days and nights in the hospital. Her daughter wouldn’t take her medicines most of the time and she would run away from the Psychiatric ward almost every night. Some times it was only around the hospital campus and the other times they found her next to the lake, sitting under a tree.

The campus of Rex Hospital was huge and Kelly had taken at least ten rounds in the campus before she went to the lake to search for her. No one was around. The guards near the lake told her that it had been a while since they had seen her daughter around the lake.

She felt helpless, felt weak. It was enough. Enough of being worried everyday. The nurses in the Rex Hospital treated her daughter well because Dr. Stanley Rex was Kelly’s father. She had many cousins but no siblings and before he passed away, he had transferred all his possessions to her name. Her father was the richest man in the family and soon Kelly found it difficult to handle things at home. The maids began to snoop into her belongings, going through her cupboards and purse. They were spying on her to give bank account and credit card information to her cousins and other people in her extended family. She ended up firing all the maids when someone tried to poison her daughter. She never found out who it was. She was fortunate that they reached the hospital in time and her daughter was saved.

It was getting dark. A cool breeze made her shiver. She sat down on a bench in a park next to the lake wondering what to do, where to go, whom to call and how she was ever going to find her daughter. Suddenly, she saw something moving in the distance.

There was a familiar figure moving towards her. She wasn’t able to see clearly so she got up and started walking towards the figure. A ray of the streetlight illuminated the person in front of her and she gasped.

It was Anna! But why was she wearing a wedding gown?

How did she get herself dressed? Kelly thought. She was in the hospital just two hours ago and what was she doing in a wedding dress?
“Anna!” She called. “Anna!”

Anna stopped in her tracks and looked up at her. She stared at her mother blankly and then turned around and walked away quickly in the opposite direction.

“Wait! Anna wait!” She screamed.

Anna didn’t listen to her and began to run. She chased after her but Anna’s young legs took her farther away from her mother who was running out of breath. Kelly ran as much as she could, as fast as she could but Anna was too quick for her. She ran so far away until she disappeared into the darkness.

Kelly sat down. Tears welled in her eyes but she got up again and pushed on holding her side. She made it to the point where the road forked. Now she had to decide which direction to go. She shut her eyes and swallowed. Her mouth was dry, her heart was pounding. Tears dripped down her face. She was scared. Too afraid, not of the darkness but of the thought that she might lose her daughter forever.

She had to choose one road. She finally chose the one leading toward her house. Perhaps her daughter would have taken that road. Some times when you can’t decide which way to go, you tend to choose the one that feels familiar. May be her daughter could have found the road familiar or was she taking the road because it was familiar to her?

She started running again. She could no longer feel the presence of her daughter in front of her. She considered turning back and trying the other road but she was so far down this one already. She decided to check the house first.

She reached her familiar gate finally. She walked in hoping that her daughter would be inside.

The gate stood wide open. She looked inside and saw an ambulance. They must have been waiting there for Anna. She walked through the gates and saw an unfamiliar young nurse.

“Sister!” She shouted, “did you find her?”

The nurse walked towards her, she didn’t answer.

“Did you find her?” Kelly asked again.

“No ma’am, but we have sent people to search for her from the hospital. We came here to the house thinking she could be here.” The nurse said. She looked nervous.

“Thank you,” Kelly said. “Thank you so much. I saw her in the park but she ran away. She was dressed in a wedding dress. I don’t know why she was in a wedding dress! And then I lost her at the fork in the road. We need to go right now to that other road.”

“Ma’am, we’ll do that but right now you need to relax. You still haven’t had your pills for your blood pressure. It’s not safe for you to run around in this state.” The nurse looked concerned.

“Yes, thank you, dear. What is your name?”

“Sharon,” she said.

“Thank you, Sharon. I need to take my pills. I’m already feeling heaviness in my head but I don’t have time to go inside the house.” She was desperate to find her daughter. She didn’t care about herself or what might happen to her health. She just needed to see her daughter’s face.

“Don’t worry ma’am. We have it in our medicine kit inside the ambulance. Let’s get inside and get going, we shouldn’t be too late.”

They walked towards the ambulance and got inside.

“Where did she get a wedding dress from?” Sharon asked as they entered inside the ambulance.

“I don’t know! I’m so tired of doing this everyday, Sister.” Kelly said. “I haven’t slept properly for so many days and I’ve given up hope on them finding a cure for her disease.”

“Don’t worry ma’am, God has a plan for everybody. I’m sure everything will be fine.” The nurse said as she gave her the medicine.

“Thank you. You are very kind. God bless you.” Kelly took the medicines and had it. She felt a little better after having a sip of water. She was so dehydrated and exhausted.

She began to feel a little calm.

“Please tell the driver to take the left fork,” Kelly said, looking at the nurse and then towards the driver. She was so exhausted that she couldn’t speak properly.

“Don’t worry ma’am, he already knows the way.” Sharon said.

Kelly kept looking towards the road until she finally dosed off.

ONE HOUR LATER.

In the hospital…

It was Dr. Parik’s first day in the department. He hated psychiatry but it was a requirement in his university for him to do one month in it during his internship. Stupid crazies, he thought. You never know which one is going to flip and when.

He walked into the female ward at precisely 7 am. He would spend not more than thirty minutes after which he would go home and sleep for another three or four hours before the clinic started. Hopefully he would be able to get over his hangover.

A group of nurses were crowded around the nurses’ desks. “Let’s go!” he shouted. “Sister, come.”

An older nurse in glasses approached him. The others looked in her direction. Must be the head-nurse, Dr. Parik thought. “Ok let’s go, sister, bring the patients to the front of the beds.”

One by one the patients were made to stand next to their beds.

“What’s this case?” he asked.

“Doctor,” a nurse volunteered. “This is Mary.”

“I didn’t ask for the name. Bed number 1. What’s the case?”

The patient turned towards him and said, “I am Mary! I am the Mother of God! I have come to save you my son!”

Dr. Parik stepped back. Some of the nurses giggled. “Quiet!” he yelled. He yanked the chart from the nurse’s hands and looked at the past history and the medications and made a few squibbles in the chart that nobody else would probably understand.

“Next,” he said.

Schizophrenia, depression, failed suicide attempts he went through each one, made a few squibbles and scratches in the chart, in essence not making any major changes and he moved on. At last he came to bed 23.

“What’s the case?” he droned and looked up from his chart. The patient was still in her bed. “Who’s the nurse?” he asked.

“Me, doctor,” said a young voice from behind.

“What’s your name? And tell me about this case.” He asked.

“My name is Sharon Murphy. And this case…”

Sharon looked apologetically at Kelly. She turned to the doctor and said as softly and as loudly as she felt was right.

“Her daughter, Anna, was suffering from schizophrenia also. She died 3 years ago. Ms. Kelly was taking care of her daughter for the past 12 years until her daughter finally decided to take her own life. At first Ms. Kelly was in denial and over time she finally developed schizophrenia herself. She thinks her daughter is alive and has visual and auditory hallucinations about her daughter. She runs away at night searching for her daughter sometimes but since she has delusion of grandeur, she thinks she owns the hospital and her daughter is admitted here so she comes back.”

“Oh good runs away but returns. My dog also does that.” He laughed expecting giggling from the nurses but there was silence. “I mean that’s so dangerous! How is this happening? What are all the nurses doing in this hospital? Patient running away. Where does she go?”

Sharon looked at him feeling a little irresponsible and replied. “She doesn’t go far. She is either in the campus or we find her in the director’s quarter. She thinks it’s her house.”

“Oh okay.” Dr. Parik turned towards Kelly. “Ms. Kelly! Hello!”

Kelly opened her eyes slowly.

“Hello Ms. Kelly, listen, you are in the hospital. My name is Dr Pratik I am your doctor.”

“Yes, Rex Hospital, Kelly said. My father was Dr. Stanley Rex. He died and left me this hospital.”

Dr. Pratik straightened up suddenly and looked at the nurses. The head nurse shook her head and he understood that this was also a delusion.

“Did you find my daughter?” She asked.

“No, we…” Dr Pratik could not finish speaking when Kelly suddenly started shouting.

“ANNAAAA. MY ANNA.”

Sharon tried to hold her and calm her down but it only became worse.

Kelly shouted more. She thrashed and scratched. She screamed at the nurses and caught on to Dr Pratik’s collar until she was pinned down to the floor finally by five people. Sharon came by with a needle and skillfully injected her with it.

Kelly fought back for a little bit more but then she felt drowsy. The whole world became blurry and she was lightheaded.

Kelly felt calm again. The sounds around her were muffled. She looked at the door and saw a girl wearing a white dress. She smiled at her.

My dear daughter. Kelly thought. She has finally come. How beautiful she looks on her wedding day. She is such a wonderful bride.

“Come here precious,” she tried to mumble but the words did not escape her mouth. “Where did you go? Come here to me.”

Some how her daughter still understood and her smiling daughter walked towards her bed, sat on it and laid down next to her. Kelly put her arms around her, hugged her daughter and slowly closed her eyes.

Kelly smiled weakly. “Anna” was the last word she mouthed before closing her eyes and drifting off to a deep sleep.

Long distance relationships definitely work!

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Long distance relationships are often seen as something that mostly end up with heart breaks or betrayal but with a little self maturity and discipline, it can be turned into a happy ending.

Before you try and make it work, you have to be aware of what kind of relationship you are into, whether it is lust or love. There is no point of investing years of your life when you know that your relationship is only based on lust but if you are sure that both of you are looking for something deeper and something more meaningful then yes, it can definitely work.

New technologies have made it easier to maintain long distance relationships but frequent communication is not always necessary, it does not actually matter. Building trust in the person is what really matters!

Being so far away from one another, it becomes hard to meet often and the longer you wait, you start feeling that the time is dragging and your interest is fading away slowly but if you can keep yourself busy and you are a person who has a lot of hobbies then you will realise that time flies and it’s that time again when you are going to meet your partner.

Conflicts between couples are very common and some of the conflicts end up into a break up but people in long distance relationships need to try and solve it faster or avoid conflicts because you have to make the most out of the little time you spend with each other.

Being independent is the key. You have to be someone who is not dependent, someone who is comfortable with going out alone or going to events and socialising with everyone. Remember you are not looking out for somebody or for a company. You are out to have fun.

Plan a place for the future where both of you can finally live together and a time frame for that. You need to create that incentive to wait for each other. Working things out for the future, whether its work wise or a place where both of you would love to live is necessary because finally you will have to eventually find a way to be next to each other.

Finally, love is what is stronger than any other thing so keep adding a little love everyday and some day it will definitely build the walls of your home together.

10 Advantages for Women who are Single and Living Alone!

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We see a lot of women today who choose to live alone, manage their living, and pursue a career of their choice. Women who live alone do have their lonely moments. However, living alone has its own positives, it is bliss. So what are those things that make living alone a bliss? What are the positives that turn a woman’s loneliness into happiness?

Become the leading lady of your life’s movie! We become Superstars! We dance around in just a t-shirt and there is no one to judge us.

Remain carefree! We sing on top of our lungs or may be with our head phones in our ears and we lip synch because that way when we don’t know the words we still continue singing like we are performing on the stage.

Don’t bother for petty things! We care least about what to wear. We sometimes walk out of the house in the same t-shirt we wore in the previous night, without even combing our hair. No one is there to be embarrassed about the mess we look like.

Nobody’s there to judge you! Spend 5 hours dressing up and deciding what to wear. At least 3 times into the dress we have to wear before we finally take a shower and put on the dress that we actually have to wear for the party without having any one to tell us -ENOUGH!!

No disturbance in Self-pampering! When we are late, there is no one to tell us not to go in for our last minute shower where we actually forget there is something called time and we start noticing how amazingly the shower gel is foaming up , or look into the mirror and make some weird faces but leave with a smile in the end or we just think it’s a compulsion to apply shampoo thrice followed by the conditioner which has to be kept on for a while and then may be waste a little hair spa just because it smells good as well.

Dance like nobody’s watching! Try twerking just because it’s in or try some YouTube exercise or dance video only to realise after many trial moves that it’s not your take yet not feeling stupid or like a failure because no one was watching us.

No need to shy away! Take a video of our own just because we want to see how a dress looks from the back with no pressure of deleting it because no one opens any of our gadgets.

Have the freedom to take charge! Flirt with anyone we want without feeling guilty at all. If someone hurts us, there are another bunch making us feel special.

Learning to love yourself! Lastly, we start enjoying our own company, become self-sufficient and learn to make ourselves happy without having to depend on anyone or anything.

Fairytales & Mills and Boon Actors do exist! We still believe in fairy tale endings. “That some day he’s going to come into her life and sweep her off her feet, love her more than anything and they live happily ever after!!”

Three ways to spend your husband’s money (without him feeling the pain!)

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Women love to shop and even without a formal training on what to shop and where to shop, they are already professionals at it. It is of course convenient to have a purse full of money allowing you to buy whatever you want but some times the purse is not always full. The next most convenient way is the husband’s ATM card.

So, how can you use his card with his permission without making him feel the pain.

Scene one.

“Baby, I found a phone for you. It’s everything you want. I have to buy it for you.”

5 minutes later.

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“Baby! I bought it, one for you and one for me. Oh you’ll love it.”

Scene two.

“Awwww honey! You look so tired. You know, you need a break from all your work. Lets go somewhere this weekend. I’ll book the tickets right away.”

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“Yay! It’s the beach this weekend. I booked the resort and baby, I bought some clothes too. Your wife is going to look hot this weekend.”

Scene three.

“Darling, how is this necklace? How do you think I’ll look with just the necklace on?”

2 minutes later.

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“Your the best husband. I love you so much. And guess what? I will wear just this necklace tonight and wait for you to come home.”

The one problem of every strong woman.

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It’s the 21st century and it’s not uncommon to see women who are successful in all areas, who have the potential to take control, to multitask and create whatever they want. It’s considered as having the masculine energy that makes a women strong and gives her the ability to take care of herself and take charge of her life.

Being the independent kind, they do have attraction towards independent and masculine guys but it becomes hard for them to find one or even if they do, it’s hard for them to connect with one. So, they end up attracting feminine guys or simply a sissy!

There is just one reason for this and it’s the habit of saying – “I CAN DO IT MYSELF”

Masculine guys need to feel masculine. No masculine guy will want to be around a women who never lets him take care of her.

“I CAN DO IT MYSELF” is not always something that proves that you are strong. Having to do everything yourself is a form of weakness. All you are doing is trying to evaluate yourself by showing how strong you are.

A strong women doesn’t need to prove it or exert so much energy to show how strong she is. She might be out of practice of receiving but she is aware that it makes her stronger to be served.

A weak woman needs help all the time. She is always either saying- “help me” or showing signs that she needs help.

A woman who is a step higher than that always says -“I can do it myself and I don’t need anyone else”

But a really strong woman does things a little differently, she says – ” I know I can do it but it’s a lot more fun when someone else can do it for me!”

Men and women need each other. Not for survival or for happiness, not for entertainment or for being vulnerable. Yes, they need each other if they want to enjoy life at a different level.

All the strong ladies out there, it doesn’t make you inferior or weak if you let him do things for you. So, be tender, be passionate and be present in whatever he creates for you. Enjoy the act of being feminine!

Me amas? Do you love me? I mean, Tume mote Bhola pao ki?

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She lived in a small village called Basmapur in Orissa, India. Her world was the tiny village. To her it was big, she had only a bicycle to take her everywhere so any place she needed to go to, she had to cycle for a very long distance.

Her favourite place was the beach, no not the main beach in Basmapur where all the tourists normally went. She found her part of the beach, it was hers, at least until the tourists reached there too. She would go there every evening and take a walk. Sit by the beach, walk into the water till it touches her ankles. She loved the feeling of wet sand and how her feet sank into it every time the waves crossed her.

If she had a choice, she would have been on the beach the whole day but she didn’t have the luxury of it. She was the only daughter of a fisherman, and her mother, she heard, had eloped with another man when she was a baby and abandoned her. Her father took care of her until he never came back after his day in the sea. He had gone fishing and the last rumour she heard was that he went far away into the sea and lost his way.

It was just a year ago when the incident took place, she was just 16. Her father couldn’t have abandoned her because she was a princess to him. He brought her up differently from the other kids in the village as she was among one of the girls who got to attend school. Most children were helping their parents with work. May be she would have been amongst them but she was lucky that the government had announced free education till the eighth standard.

It was in the middle of her eight standard that she had to quit her school because she had to find a job to feed herself and also maintain her house as she was the head of the family now. She was thankful that she could at least study till her seventh standard. Not many people were educated in her village so she managed to get a job very quickly: a receptionist at a travel agency. It was the only business, after fishing that was in demand in Basmapur, thanks to the beautiful beaches.

“Hello! Do you make hotel reservations?” a man’s voice asked.

She looked up to see him. “Hello! Please repeat,” she said, it was too fast for her. She had learnt English in school but had rarely had a conversation in it with anyone.

“Huh!” He thought he was pretty loud and clear. This wasn’t the first time someone didn’t understand the way he spoke. He repeated, “Hotel booking. Here?”

“Yes! Yes!” She answered. There was no hotel booking services at her travel agency but if she took a tourist to a hotel, she could get a commission out of it.

He was one of those travelers who never had pre-booked tickets or hotels. This had never been an inconvenience to him until he reached Basmapur. There was just one signboard of a hotel that he found and the only three rooms in the hotel were occupied. He thought he would find another one, walked miles but did not see a single hotel on his way until he finally reached this travel agency. Probably the only one in the whole village, he thought.

She quickly cleared her table and grabbed her bag which was rested on the wall in the corner of the tiny room they were in. “Mu hotel ku jaiki asibi.” She said looking at the old lady on the other side of the room. The owner’s wife probably.

He had no idea what was going on, no idea what she just said. The only two languages he spoke were English and Spanish. He was from the United States, and this was his first trip to India.

He waited patiently for her to say something to him.

“Come.” She said as she walked out of the door. “I go, you, hotel.”

“Hotel?!” He asked. “You’re going to take me to a hotel?”

“Yes.” She answered and waited for him to follow.

She unlocked her bicycle wheels and sat on the seat. “Sit”, she said, looking at him and pointing to the back seat.

He was surprised. “No, no. How far is it? Can we walk?” He said looking perplexed.

“Tike aste aste kuhantu, English bholo se bujhi paru nahin” then realising he wouldn’t have understood a word, she said, “Slow, I English very little.”

“We go walking? Hotel?” This time he said very slowly, dropping grammar excesses, trying to show a little sign language too by moving his index and middle finger to show the walking action.

“Long, no walk. Hotel long.” She said thinking that this time she got it right.

He knew that the bicycle was the only way out. There were no other vehicles around except two buses with the travel agency’s name on them.

“May I?” He asked holding on to the handle of her bicycle.

“Ok. Dhanyabad.” She replied. He finally understood the word. It meant thank you. He had learnt few Oriya words on his way to Orissa.

They were finally on their way, she managed to guide him.

“Ruha! Ruha!” She shouted out.

He figured she meant- stop.

It was the same hotel he had been to earlier. It felt good riding a bicycle through the village. It reminded him of his childhood, which was probably the last time he rode a bicycle. He didn’t realise that they were heading the same direction he came walking from.

“Hotel full. No room.” He tried to explain it to her but she was already heading through the entrance.

He stood there waiting for her to return. In two minutes she was out looking sad.

“Full, no hotel.” She said looking concerned.

“It’s okay, we go to another hotel,” he just wanted to make sure that she understood so he said it again.

“No, no hotel. One hotel, this hotel. No hotel.” She sounded worried. It was already getting dark. The time was already 6.30 pm and the last bus was at 4 pm.

There was just one hotel in the village. Most tourists came to see the beach and they would normally go back. No one really stayed there, and if they did, rooms were usually available.

“Chalo! Come.” She said after thinking for a while, she thought she would talk to the travel agency and ask them to allow him to stay there, there was no bed but may be he could manage to sleep on the floor.

When they reached, it was dark already and she wasn’t surprised. It was locked.

He also started to get a little worried but if he could find any quiet place, may be the beach. He could sleep in the open.

“No worries. Where is the beach? I sleep there.” He tried to make her understand that he was fine. He was there for a holiday and what better can he ask than a night spent on the beach, under the sky.

“Okay, beach. Mo gharoku aasa. Eat and go beach.” She wanted to make sure that he ate something and there was no other place to take him to eat other than her house.

“You take me, beach?” He felt fortunate to find her in this little village. He was looking at the tourist guide book of Orissa and saw some pictures of the beaches of this village, it looked amazing and that’s how he had ended up there. He had no regrets.

They walked with the bicycle by their side. Finally, they reached a small hut.

“You eat and we beach.” She thought her sentence sounded wrong judging by his expression. She tried again. “We go beach, we eat, after eating.”

He had food packed in his bag. It was enough for two. He quickly took the food out from his bag because it was hard to explain it, may be she would feel that he didn’t want to eat with her if he didn’t accept her offer.

“We go to the beach and we eat there? Together?” He asked.

She smiled at him and nodded her head.

“Wait.” She said to him and opened the gate made out of bamboo. She left her bicycle and came out.

It was already dark. As she came out she said, “Beach. Here, beach.”

He suddenly realised that the ground was made of sand. He was already at the beach. He couldn’t see the water yet because they were a little far away from it.

They walked towards the water and found a place to sit.

They ate together and they spoke about a lot of things in broken English. They slowly began to effectively communicate. They spoke about the food they liked, the stars they could see, about family, friends.

“Where from?” she asked him.

“America.”

“Ohhhh! Amrika?!” She had never met anyone from there before. “What doing?”

“What do I do? As in work?”

She nodded her head.

“Oh I’m a pilot, ummmm…plane, flying?” He pointed at the sky and then his hands and also made a whooshing sound of jet.

“Oh, plane driver?” She said.

“A pilot…YES! A plane driver,” he said smiling at her innocence.

They continued talking for a while until they couldn’t take the pestering of mosquitoes anymore.

“Many mosquitoes running, you me go walking,” she said.

He had found the most adorable girl he had ever met in his lifetime. He felt like pinching her cheeks every time she said something. Mosquitoes running? That was the cutest thing he ever heard.

They took a long walk barefooted on the wet sand. Talking, walking, sitting, standing, talking and talking. Both of them were having a wonderful time when finally they could see the sun rising across the horizon.

He had met the most wonderful girl in a place he never knew about. They had the opposite lives and lived on opposite sides of the globe. When he was six, his father had died in the war. The only memory he had of his father was of his photographs and of the coffin at his funeral. His mother smoked and drank herself to death and at the age of fourteen, he lost her too. He went from one foster home to another. His relationships were a plain and empty blur. He saw kids at his foster homes end up on the streets, doing drugs. He didn’t have the picture-perfect American family life that Hollywood showed and he wondered often if that even existed. He knew he didn’t want to end up on the streets like the people around him. When he was eighteen he took a loan and bussed tables, cleaned bathrooms and did other odd jobs to put himself through flying school. He wanted to be a pilot like his dad. But he didn’t want to join the military. As far as he knew, the military had abandoned his mother and him.

He travelled the world, meeting people and experiencing cultures. He saw the same human struggle in every person he met, the wish to live a happier and more content life. He met a few women and dated a little but there was always something missing. He didn’t have a connection.

Not until now. There was something about this girl that drew him to her. He did not speak her language and she barely spoke his. But in her eyes he saw what he saw everyday looking into the mirror.

He was in India for three weeks on vacation. He had heard so much about the culture and the food and the spirituality and fulfillment that his passengers told him they found there. He always thought he would feel this at the foothills of the Himalayas or while meditating in Varanasi but here on this beach in Orissa, walking barefooted in the sand, speaking to a girl whom he barely knew but felt like he had known forever.

He told her about his childhood. She told him about hers about how she had been abandoned and lost but how she still survived. She didn’t have any big hopes or dreams. She thought she would get married because that was what girls did. Maybe she would have a family. But she wanted to continue working.

He thought about how she was born in, grew up in and lived in the same place to die in the same place.

For him the world was just a flight away. What difference did international borders make to him? The entire world was connected and smaller for him. For her, it was an uncharted, scary universe and it made her anxious to think beyond her little village.

He was supposed to travel east to Kolkata and then south but he couldn’t get himself to leave just yet. He turned to her. “Me, I stay here for more days. We go to hotel and book the room. Okay?”

“Okay, you like Basmapur?”She asked, happy that he was staying for longer. She had found a friend after a long time. The girls didn’t talk to her because she had attended school and none of them did and the boys in school took her as a lower caste.

“Yes, I love Basmapur, and you.” He answered.

She smiled. He didn’t know if she understood. They slowly took a walk to the hotel though it was a very long walk. The room was going to be vacant that evening so she took him to her house to stay in until then and she went off to work.

When she was at work, he would sit on the beach, looking into the horizon and wondering how what lay beyond could be any better than where he was now. She would come back from work and they would talk and eat.

He was used to getting stares because of the color of his skin. Normally, people would just stare. On occasion someone would come up to him and try to sell him things. He was used to this no matter which country he went to. But he began to notice that people were staring at her too disapprovingly. Perhaps it was because of him?

He tried to ask her about it but she brushed it off. “People staring always. Beautiful girl, they staring. Ugly girl, they staring. Girl with boy they staring. They staring always. Don’t worry. Be happy. If you listen them, you never happy.”

He smiled. He knew she was not well educated but she was wise beyond her years. Her English wasn’t good but to be honest, her command of English was a thousand times better than his Oriya or even his Spanish. If anything, she had the upper-hand.

Three weeks passed in what seemed like only days. He couldn’t stay any longer. His job and life awaited him.

“You have a phone?” He asked, wondering how he was going to keep in touch with her.

“No, no phone.” She answered.

He took out his laptop and connected to the Internet. There was a naval port near by so he was sure there had to be a tower somewhere. And of course there is a computer in the travel agency too.

He spent time teaching her how to use the internet and helped her open an email account. This was the only idea he could think of. He couldn’t give her his phone because it had been acting strange, doing things by itself. She had noticed it and commented “Your phone, master. Not doing what saying.” By then he was used to her language and understood what she meant: the phone was commanding itself. He then taught her the word ‘command’ and also about viruses that enter the phone.

“Mu tamuku Bahutu mane Pakai,” she looked at him and said, “Matra gote bhasa jothesta nuhe.” She was sad because she couldn’t explain it in English.

But he saw it in her eyes and understood. “I love you. I’ll come back for you. I’m not leaving you. I’ll come back.” He said.

“Mu bujhe.” She said and translated what she said, “I understood.”

He kissed her forehead and said a goodbye and left. His last words were, “I love you. I’ll come back.”

Three days passed without a word from him. She kept checking her email because that was the only way she could wait for him.

One week passed. No mail.

She was staring at the computer screen and then suddenly she heard a beep. She had never heard that sound before. She was worried if she did anything wrong. Then she suddenly saw…

1 new mail.

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Nomoskar!

I’m sorry I wasn’t able to email you earlier. My flight made an emergency landing in an airport near Budapest. The weather took a turn for the worse and we are stuck in a snowstorm. There is no internet available and I’m using someone else’s phone to write to you. I just want you to know I am safe and I don’t want you to think I’ve forgotten you.

I know our time together was short. I know we come from different worlds, that we are worlds apart but the only world I want to be in is with you.

I have to give the phone back. I will write to you later.

Mo tomoku bholo pauchi!
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She finally got a mail, a mail! From him. He remembered her. He mailed her. Finally, finally, finally. She was so excited but now it was her turn to reply.

He had taught her to press the reply button to mail back but in the excitement and hurry in mailing him, she pressed the forward button. Now she had no idea what to do. She panicked and decided to switch off the computer instead and log in again.

Finally started typing.

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ok how ar you i am fine phul stop i very heppi you letter

when you come

beach no body i walking end walking

please come

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This was the first letter she had ever written in her life and she didn’t know if it was correct. She read the letter over and over to make sure it sounded alright. She sent it hoping for the best.

But when he saw it, it brought a smile to his face. She was trying her best and not afraid of showing him her weaknesses.

She waited for a mail everyday and he made sure she received one everyday, some times two, sometimes more. He mailed her from every place he landed. And he made her live his life through the mails.

He was back to his regular life, flying from one place to the next, sleeping in hotel rooms which all began to look the same, and he was flying again to another place. He worked and was exhausted everyday. What was the point of his struggles? He worked before because it gave him something to do that was better than selling drugs on the street. But now he felt like he had a bigger purpose.
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I looked up why my phone is listening to its own commands. I don’t think my phone has a virus. I looked at a forum and they made some suggestions so lets see.

I’m in the airport, I use to love going on the plane. It felt like an old home. Plus being so high in the sky! So high!

In the sky baby! But it’s nothing like sitting next to you on the beach.

Also I just drank a beer (water) in the airport bar hehe. Ok going to go to be a plane driver now.

Just wrote to say hi and hi.

Also I love you!

And I love you in the sky! In the sky!

Ok now I go to the sky to go love you from there.

Hopefully there are no mosquitoes that go running.

Hahahaha

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I’m taking off from Baltimore baby. Just wanted to say goodnight. You’re probably still sleeping.

I love you.

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I just landed in Newyork and now I have to get on my plane to fort Lauderdale (its next to Miami).

I loved you all the time from when I was high in the sky and also on the ground. Also while landing.

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He mailed every single day, month after month until one day, the letters stopped coming.

A second felt like minutes, a minute felt like hours, hours felt like months and days felt like years.

She loved him and he was the only friend she had.

She knew of no future with him because she couldn’t imagine it. She knew that she was just a poor, uneducated, orphaned girl in a little village. He was a pilot who flew big aeroplanes in the sky and travelled around the whole world. Why would he come to her? It was more likely that he would have found somebody else. But she thought may be he would visit Basmapur again. She looked at her atlas and saw all of the places in all those countries where he could be. Why would he come back? But if he did, she would be happy. This boy came all the way from America. He was the only friend she had ever had. She just wanted to spend another moment with him, even as just a friend.

She waited and waited but her inbox was empty.

She sat quietly, looking at the notebook in front of her on her table. It had the list of names of people booked their tickets that morning. She didn’t see his name in there anywhere. She stared at it and day-dreamed. Maybe she was being silly hoping for him to come back.

She was blankly still staring at her list when suddenly someone dropped a paper ball on her table. She looked up and got a shock. It was him! He was standing right in front of her. But she couldn’t move or say anything. She couldn’t breathe.

“Khola”, he said pointing to the paper ball. “Khola,” he repeated and smiled.

She tried to say something but he was insistent that she open the paper first.

She slowly opened it.

Scribbled in it were words in Oriya. “Tume mo sahita asiba ki? MARRY ME.”

She looked at him with tears. She stood up not knowing what to say or do.

He smiled. He said the words to her. “Tume mo sahita asiba ki?”

“Han naschita!” She replied.

“Me amas?” He spoke in Spanish by mistake, “Do you love me?” No. No. No, That’s not the language he wanted to say it in,”I mean, tumme mote bhola pao ki?” He finally asked.

She laughed at his accent. It was adorable. “Yes! Yes, I love you.”

They reached out for each other and hugged.

“I thought you never come,” she said. Tears welled in her eyes. “I thought you forget me. I thought you go everywhere in atlas and forget me.”

“I went everywhere in the world to find you, not to forget you.”

He took her left hand slowly into his, took out a ring from his pocket and placed it on her finger.

“But where will we go? What will we do?” she asked.

“We can go anywhere we want. We can stay here if you want. I saved up money and quit my job.”

“No,” she said. “There nothing here for you. Nothing for me. We go any where in atlas.”

He smiled. “Then come with me,” he said. “Let me show you the world.”

FACTS ABOUT NEWBORNS.

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Have you ever looked at a newborn and wondered if the newborn babies sense the world as “an overflowing confusion” or if they actually don’t sense anything?
Here are few facts about Neonates and infants.

Neonates see things as though they are looking through a fixed-focus camera. They lack visual accommodation – so don’t keep moving the toy in front of them, it’s hard for them to focus!

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By 2-3 months they can see almost all the colours of the visual spectrum but they prefer red and blue to other colours. So, if you are confused about the colour of the toys or clothes you should buy…it’s blue or red!

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They are near sighted and they can see objects only upto 7 to 9 inches away so don’t wave at them from the other end of the room, they can’t see you.
However, by the age of 4 months, they seem able to focus about as well as adults can.

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They developed hearing even before they were BORN. So if newborns turn to you, it’s not because they can see you but because they can hear you. They reflexively turn their heads towards unusual sounds. They are preprogrammed to survey their environment.

Three days old babies prefer to their mother’s voices to those of other women but they do not show similar preferences for the voices of their fathers.

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By the time of birth, they have had 3 months of experience already. They were capable of sensing sounds and they were learning, even inside the uterus. This learning contributes to their neonatal preferences.

Neonates can discriminate distinct odours like onions and even rotten eggs, they turn away from unpleasant odours.
Give a newborn infant a rotten egg to smell and they will literally spit or stick out their tongues or literally wrinkle their noses at the odour. But they smile or show licking motions to chocolates, strawberries or vanilla.

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Newborns can discriminate taste as well. Give them anything salty or bitter, they will refuse it. They can discriminate sweetness on the day following birth.

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Newborns are sensitive to touch but relatively insensitive to pain though sensitivity increases dramatically with just a few days – no wonder how they adapt to all the squeezing of birth processes.

YES! Newborns are capable of perceiving the world reasonably well soon after birth!

The 7 things you need to do to the phone addicts.

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Snatch their phones and place it on your forehead so that you can pretend that they are looking at you while you are talking to them.

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Make the ugliest faces at them because anyway they will never come to know. Their faces are buried inside their phones.

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Take them to a poor reception area, specially if you are on a date with one.

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If you are in a very long queue and you have phone addicts in front of you who aren’t moving forward…don’t think twice before going in front of them. Try it!

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Give them a walking stick when they walk, they are blind.

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When the Internet is down, tell them not to worry. Their phones are still working.

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If two of them happen to sit together, take their phones away and let them know that they are sitting next to each other and they can talk.

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And a free advice for all the readers – Do not trust someone who doesn’t bother to reply to your messages if they are a phone addict and they can’t stay away from the phone even when you meet them.

Learn to be creative in just a few steps.

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Creativity involves adventuring the unexplored, it is determined through one’s output in the form of ideas, work, inventions etc. but is it something that is only naturally endowed?

Unlike caste, colour or creed, creativity has no geographical location or culture. It is universal. Everyone of us therefore can be creative.

The most important step is divergent thinking. Here are the few steps to practice it.

REMOVE YOUR FEARS : fear of failing, fear of being judged are some of the factors that stops a person from trying new things.

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BE INDEPENDENT IN YOUR JUDGEMENT AND DECISIONS : One’s individuality and identity should be imbibed in one’s creative work. It’s the style of individual functioning and even past experiences that reflects on the creativity.

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ALWAYS CHOOSE THE THINGS THAT ARE COMPLEXED : Challenge is the game that creative people enjoy. It should inspire and persuade you to indulge into creative processes.

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STOP BEING TOLERANT TO BOREDOM : “feeling bored” is a very common status update on Facebook. Acknowledging it, is a sign of being tolerant to it. Creative individuals develop anxiety at such situations as a result of seeking satisfaction of his creative urge and end up being intolerant to boredom. However this anxiety is different from a neurotic individual with disturbed personality.

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TRANSFER KNOWLEDGE FROM ONE SITUATION TO ANOTHER : School achievements have nothing to do with creativity. Scoring low on achievement is because of lack of reproduction of the input. What you need is a greater output of the little knowledge you gained. It involves openness and using the knowledge of what you learnt in the past.

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BE FLEXIBLE IN YOUR PERCEPTION : Remember what you perceive is not the only means or the end in itself. Try providing new perspective to your thought and action.

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STOP CARING FOR PLEASANT SECURITY OF POSITIVE PEER APPROVAL : Be more inner oriented and try to use your energy and potential to satisfy creative urges. You might end up having non-conformist views but that’s what creativity is about. Being original!

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Most importantly learn to express yourself, learn to have fluency in expressing your thoughts to the world because, YOU are original. There is just one “YOU”. You are, what you need to be creative. Be original.

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