Our species (whether a guy or girl ) are always looking out for a partner and until we find the one made for us we always end up getting into wrong matches. It is of course a part of life but the more sensitive and more emotional gender ends up getting more hurt. Not for any other reason but only because female brains have her compartments more wired. So to save yourself from the little pains from the wrong guys, you need to identify them.

The smooth talkers ( the flirts)

He’s the kind who will sweep you off your feet. He has the cutest smile and the most charming face. It’s not about his looks but he just knows what to say and what to do at the right time. He looks at you with that charismatic stare and you feel like his world is just you. He calls often and checks on you. Leaves a goodnight message and sends the sweetest wake up message or a call. Love comes before anything for him (that’s what it looks like to you) but the truth is that his love compartment is far away from your name and you. His attention graph for you is steep in the beginning but slowly his excuses begin. These kind of guys will leave you as soon as you fall in love so ladies disappear before they do and don’t worry about how he will feel because he’s a hunter and before you know it he’ll be fine with another prey . He is probably the one who will make you a stronger person but there are many other ways that can make you stronger so don’t fall for this one.

The quality guy (the one who vanishes)

Well, he is interested in you and finds you attractive and loves to hang out with you. He makes you feel special and does all the right things he needs to do when he’s around you but before you know it he vanishes. He checks on you once in a while, drops in a call or a message but again vanishes. He plans for dates but gives you a very short notice , doesn’t really care about your schedule and just expects you to be available. He has all the kind words to say to you but hardly talks about why he vanishes every time. Yes he might be the busiest man yet spends time with you but you have no idea what’s actually going on. Ladies, here’s the truth- He is attracted to you and thinks your awesome but he has no respect for you and takes you for granted so yes he’s not at all on the same page as you because he wants different things and he isn’t ready for a commitment so here’s the advise…turn your back towards him and run because agreed he has the quality but he is too casual about you.

The lovers who are just not ready.

He is the one who loves you (definition of love is always flexible). He takes you out and gives you all the attention, care, love and everything else you would desire. He’s the perfect guy that you would have imagined. Everything is going well except that he doesn’t let you meet his friends, never talks about you meeting his family. He seems confused every time he talks about future- some times includes you but some times you know you are not a part of the plan. Well, you could be the girl he desires and loves you for the moment but the timing is just too wrong. So ladies recognise this red light as soon as you can and tell him that he needs to vacate that space that is meant for the one who will love you and who will do anything to save your dignity.

Life is about experiences and each experience adds to your story or just you. But you need to start loving yourself if you don’t want to get hurt or played. Love for yourself is the greatest love you will find and once you learn how to do that you will be clear about the person who should be just the other half of you and you will be glad that you created space for him to come into your life.

Don’t stop loving!